This xoJane article by Daisy sparked a firestorm this EST early-afternoon, with fat-feeling Daisy bemoaning her inability to feel skinnyandhot when hot-tubbing in Tahoe and spinning at the gym, thereby justifying why she’s “not okay with being fat” (and the rest of us need to be okay that she’s not okay with being fat).
It might have been yet another skinny-obsessed article in the annals of the hundreds that get published every day, except:
- xoJane is a so-called feminist publication
- Daisy drops giant hints that this isn’t just about her self-perception, but about being fat.For instance:Now I have to do something about it. You can’t tell the world you think you’re fat and then not lose weight. Or at least I can’t.Then why use the generalized “you”? Why not make this entirely about yourself instead of trying to drag the rest of us into it? Or would that be entirely too narcissistic? This article is all about navel-gazing. Might as well go all the way. And no, I’m not particularly interested in gazing at your navel, fat or thin.What bothers me lately, however, is that there doesn’t seem to be much room here for those of us who aren’t happy with the way we look and feel. I mean, it can’t just be me, right?Um…go to pretty much any women’s magazine, e- or print. Are you really that threatened when one of the hundreds of publications dares to ‘overrepresent’ a body-image-positive viewpoint?
And, sorry, but there’s nothing worse than going to a class at the gym and realizing you’re the biggest girl there.
…I am not writing this to get compliments or reassurance (or insults). I’m writing it because it’s how I feel and because I think it’s OK to want to improve one’s body. I’m writing it because I think xoJane underrepresents that point of view in an admittedly noble attempt to make us all feel equal and beautiful.
What I read in this: fat bodies are worse bodies (hence her ‘improvement’ by losing weight), and it’s ‘noble’ to ‘make us all feel equal and beautiful’ cuz, yanno, we aren’t actually equal and beautiful, but it’s nice to be charitable to the worser-offs.
Read it and the comments to see just how hard privilege fights back when it’s threatened. Privileged people can’t bear another viewpoint. They can’t bear having their preconceptions challenged. They can’t bear having choices that align with maintaining their privilege challenged by being put in a socially conscious context.
(it’s also incredibly class-privileged, but that’s fairly obvious)
Two things that I found most frustrating in this article:
1.) The authors triumphant attitude about writing this in response the the woeful under representation of internalized body shaming. This isn’t just thin privilege, its also diet privilege. The privilege to look at a world under your near total dominion and feel oppressed because of the “near”. Though at one point she qualifies this as a reference to XOJane, its still outrageously entitled to see one island in a sea and say to yourself, “where the heck is the Ocean?!? It bothers me that you haven’t made room here for sea water.”
2.) The fact that the author makes it pretty damn explicit that she’s “body autonomy for me, not for thee”. This is why I’m troubled as a rule by the use of “body autonomy” as championed by dieters. Their “body autonomy” isn’t actually under any threat. Certainly not in the way it is for others who use that term. Indeed, it often feels like most who use that approach to stand up for “dieter’s rights” inevitably make it clear that they don’t actually respect the rights of people to not diet. The author totally invalidates numerous times she insisted she meant no threat to people who were body positive by writing “That being said, there are probably some of you who are OK with your weight, but maybe shouldn’t be.” This kind of passive aggressive attack lays clear the author’s true feelings despite her pro forma protestations. She is here to champion fat shaming. She offers a fake compromise of letting everyone do what they want, though you fatties best lose some weight. When push comes to shove, only fat shame carries her seal of approval. The author cravenly pretends to be fine with a fat person’s body positivity, only to turn around and snark about they really shouldn’t okay. They are, after all, so fucking fat. Given the author’s included photos of her own, evidently, too fat body, one can only wonder how many fat positive people she is including in her snarky “Oh, no. Not you, fatty,” qualifier.
The author feels there is a lack of people to champion body shame and to tell fatties to drop some pounds. Any fat person could have easily told her there is no shortage of either.