mikr3w-deactivated20140416 asked: My girlfriend cheated on me with my friend, so I told her "the only way I'll take you back is if you gain weight" so it was going good she put on like sixty pounds ,but it just wasn't enough ya know? So I showed her a picture of YOU and I said get that big. Then she dumped me! Where are the big women at?
Maybe if you didn’t try and compare women in order to “motivate” and pit them against each other in some unrealistic battle for beauty, then you wouldn’t be currently single.
I do NOT approve of cheating by anyone, but demanding she vastly alter and manipulate her BODY in order for you to feel better about dating her, sounds like you were more interested in finding her BODY sexually appealing for your own needs, rather than actually forgiving her as a person.
Cheating is NOT ok, but manipulation, demanding massive body changes, and abusing her willingness to do whatever it takes to apologize is not ok. No wonder she left. I would have too.
If she wanted to gain weight on her own, regardless if she was dating you or not, that would be one thing, and is her body and her choice to make. It would also be her choice to share that experience with you.
Being manipulated into changing her body however is just not ok.
If you came here looking for support or sympathy, you came to the wrong place.
Feeding/weight gain/anything sexual in nature needs to be CONSENSUAL, not COERCIVE.
Also please never demand someone try and look like me again. Women have whole industries and societies telling us we’re not good enough for XYZ reason, we sure as shit don’t need more of the same from men.
i’m reblogging this here because it technically fits in more with this blog, but was sent to the other.
He told someone they needed to look like you as a form of punishment and shaming and he expected YOU to not only be supportive, but evidently to take it as a compliment? And yet, I’m not even surprised. Horrified, but not the least be surprised.
Since it needs to be said in the wake of that bull shit, you are an awesome and also beautiful woman. You’re nobody’s penance and fuck anyone who feels entitled to use in you in such a dehumanizing way.
Some asshole literally tried to say that showing positive depictions of fat people in media = showing violence as good.
Because showing PEOPLE in a positive light is equivalent to violence.
Let’s just ponder on that please
Odin take the fucking wheel.
Anyone else remember all the times plus size clothing stores have been analogized to “crack houses”? TimeS as in I’ve seen it more than once.
daltyballs asked: Why so much hate towards porn blogs? Most are just sharing photos of what they think is beautiful. Take it as a complement :) not all are sleazeballs you know. Maybe get to know one before judging :) x
Get the fuck off my blog you piece of shit
MAYBE YOU SHOULD RESPECT PEOPLES MOTHER FUCKING BOUNDARIES. I AM SO FUCKING SICK OF MEN THINKING THEY HAVE SOME FUCKING RIGHT TO JACK OFF TO PICTURES OF WOMEN THAT THEY BLATANTLY SAY IS NOT PORN AND DO NOT CONSENT TO IT BEING USED AS FUCKING PORN. THE INTERNET IS FULL OF FREE FUCKING FAP MATERIAL. WHY DO YOU MOTHER FUCKERS HAVE TO HARASS WOMEN JUST TRYING TO LOVE THEMSELVES ON THE INTERNET?
TAKE WHAT YOU CALL A COMPLIMENT, SHARPEN IT AND SHOVE IT UP YOUR ASS.
Guess what? I have a right to jerk off to whatever the fuck I want. If you overdramatic bitches seriously have this much of a problem with dudes you dont know fapping to you, dont post pictures to a public place. Thank you and goodbye.
OH MY GOD THIS IS HILARIOUS
"im just trying to appreciate you lovely fat ladies"
"fuk you fat bitches how dare you not take my inappropriate comments and be grateful for my attention"
"fat bullies, whining, whining, stupid manbullshit"
"If you didn’t want X, you shouldn’t have done Y in public" is not just creepy, its scary. "Take it as a compliment" is not just creepy. Its scary.
Porn blog DEFENDORS like pretending that somehow THEIR sexuality is being curtailed here by “overdramatic bitches”. That THEY are the ones being oppressed at… what, exactly? Their behavior continues unabated. Their abuse goes unpunished. All they need endure is disapproval, and yet this non-inconvenience is enough to outrage them at their woeful state.
But thats the issue, isn’t it. These men feel an endless supply of entitlement. Not just to ignore the sexual agency of women, but to do so without even the slightest interruption. They could have just ignored the complaints. I mean, they’ve made it clear they don’t care about women’s consent, so would it have surprised anyone if they ignored complaints about them not caring about women’s consent? And yet, they rage on. Because ultimately, this isn’t even about their precious little sexual arousal. Its about putting women in their place. That’s what is driving them and motivating them. That’s why its not enough for them to sexualize women without consent. They need to yell and scream about it. Ignoring consent wasn’t enough. They have to loudly destroy it. They have to make a show of their denial of women’s agency AND they have to demand to not even be held responsible for THAT.
We all knew they could get their kicks from women who DO consent. There are plenty of women who express their own sexuality by publishing photos of themselves for sexual consumption. Lack of access was never a problem. It was always about robbing women of their sexual agency. The recontexualizing of porn blogs not just robs women of their agency of those who don’t want to be on porn blogs. It does so of those who DO by making it clear that their consent was meaningless to them. These men are a lot worse than creeps. They are dangerous and prideful predators.
Just for anyone who doesn’t know why this is bad: Tumblr In Action exists to make fun of anyone on Tumblr who believes in equality, basically.
I don’t like this culture of singling out random individuals and laughing at them behind their backs in the first place, but its even more sickening that they’re shaming people for (according to them) being too passionate about stopping racism, not worrying about “real problems”, or for saying the patriarchy exists when REALLY its apparantly women who’re oppressing men by not paying for dates, etc etc…
Worth also noting, that despite the subreddit’s official policy of showcasing blog entries and discouraging interaction, it’s also very common taht once a post is featured on TIA, anonymous hate, as well as reblogs by virulent anti-SJ, as well as openly bigoted blogs tend to skyrocket.
That hate site is such bullshit. I’ve been posted on it dozens of times by my East Lansing stalker who has also repeatedly directly trolled me. On Tumblr, on Twitter, by email, by email using an assumed name. He even started trying to send me messages through search queries on my old Blogspot blog. And that site just eats it all up. Their facade of non-engagement couldn’t be any more of a lie. Its members comb their site to encourage hate from anti-SJ blogs and the openly neo-nazi blogs that anti-SJ blogs like to fav and promote while also feeling entitled to pretend they aren’t support neo-nazis. It’d be disgusting enough if it was just a bunch of privileged assholes giggling behind other people’s backs, but that isn’t remotely what this site is there for. Its a target list, pure and simple. As their mod proves, they don’t even bother maintaining their pretense.
Oh, for fucks sake. There is a GUY FIERI roleplayer for “real justice” yelling at me now.
Oh, no! A homestruck Brony wants to lecture me about “real justice”! Whatever shall I do?